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honestly, finding this in 2025 and reading it at 10 pm on a random tuesday while i stay up and wait for tickets to your concert was an insane shift in how i thought this night would go. i'm not ususally one to fangirl over artists beyond listening to their music an unhealthy amount- but i'm so glad i went on an alessi rose deep-dive today. i'm about 2 and a half months from turning 18 and it's scary knowing the state of the world right now. trends change faster than my mind can comprehend it and people hate on each other whilst hiding behind a glass screen, you're right, it's insane. the normalization of people telling everyone what they think of each other all the time is so wild to me- the lack of compassion when it comes to people they don't know personally is something i just cant get behind. it's very reassuring to know that someone whom i have admired for so long shares that frustrated feeling. we are so much more than labels that microtrends put on us, we're people. humans. creatures who thrive on making mistakes and learning from them, we don't have to be "perfect" evey day. taking a day to just BE, not a "lazy day" not a "self care day", just a day to BE- can be so necessary. sometimes i don't have the capacity to care for myself and i don't want to be pitied or told to do some affirmations so my ADHD burnout will "dissapear like magic". being nice to yourself can mean so much more than washing your face, taking an "everything shower" and changing your silk sheets so you can wake up like a clean-girl. if i need to lay in bed and watch youtube in my free time every once in a while- i don't want anyone to call my bedrotting an aesthetic or have to feel bad because i'm not giving myself love if i'm not taking care of my physical needs. i love that you wrote this alessi, even if it was over two years ago, i really needed it today, been a rough couple of weeks. thank you. <3

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This essay is so beyond relatable. I feel like young teenage girls just put themselves on a spectrum trying to maintain this standard of It Girls and labelling themselves as something they don’t feel necessarily content with. It’s pretty hard trying to find your “identity” off of media because it’s not you. As David Gauntlets theory implies that while people are individuals, they tend to construct their identity with what they consume and groups who are similar to them - and media is a huge impact as it reflects most of these categories and taglines we try to identify ourselves with most of our lives. But we are so much more than that. I want to be okay with not having it all put together every single day of my life. Social media prevents us from normalising this, and I feel like these internet standards are stopping us, young girls, to being the best version of ourselves. Thank u sm Alessi for sharing your thoughts on this 🩷 u are a queen

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